“So, do you really like him/her?” “Are you sure you are ready to get married?” “What are you going to be when you ‘grow up’?” “When are you going to have another baby?” You know what I am talking about. The put-you-on-the-spot-and-make-you-a-little…. uncomfortable questions you get asked by well meaning family and friends.
The million dollar question that I have been asked quite a bit lately is “So, why haven’t you updated your blog?” After pondering the question and my noncommittal responses, I have come to the following conclusions:
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- When I talk to people who haven’t commented that they have read my blog but are up to date and informed on my life, it kinda wierds me out.
- It really bothers me that friends and family know all the nitty gritty about my oh so exciting life, but I don’t know what’s up with them.
- If I am blogging for a record of what our family is up to, do I really want it out there for the whole world to see?
- I tend to be a little raw when I write. Should I be embarrassed that I don't really know who is reading all this stuff about me and my fam?
- If I am blogging just for a record for my family, should it really matter to me who comments and who doesn’t?
- If you take the time to read someone’s blog, shouldn’t you take the 30 seconds or so to give them a little shout out? I can’t deny that comments make me feel loved and oh so cool, but I can’t even get my own husband to comment on my blog. Oh and mom, word verification isn’t that hard to figure out!
- You have probably noticed that I tend to, what my sister calls, ‘blog barf.’ Blog barfing actually refers to posting multiple days at once. Blog barfing occurs when I type an entry, reread it and then let it sit in a ‘draft’ status until I have the time to go back and find/edit the pictures to go with it and of course make the fonts all cute. Blog barfing tends to make readers of my blog (especially those who don’t use google reader) crazy because posts are dated accurately but posted whenever I feel like it.
- Sometimes my perfectionism gets the best of me when I sit down at my computer to type in an entry. It has to be up to standard, which means I have to be in a writing mood and not a feeling like it has to be as good as…mood. There are some great blogs out there, and I am pretty sure blog envy is a real thing. I totally have it, which causes me to barf. See #6.
- To sum it all up, I still don’t have a real answer to the million dollar blog question. I have, however, decided that I think I want to make my blog private and will hold out my drafts folder until I can at least get my too cool husband and family to comment on this post.
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The fate of this blog lies in your hands, oh devoted fans and blog readers. If you want an invite to read my blog, send me and email...or better yet comment on this post!
Your comments are like the Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders for the Cowboys. I know the Cowboys just wouldn’t be able to complete their plays without their scantily clad sideline cheerleaders, just as I don’t think I can continue to blog barf without your comments. So, what’s it gonna be? Are you too busy or perhaps cool to let me know that you are reading this rant? Scantily clad or not, make sure your comments don’t go unheard!
32 comments:
Oh fine. I'll comment. I know what you mean, though. I love comments, even though I'm not the best at leaving them for everyone else. If you really take your blog private, I want an invite!
I know you're not talking about me cause Jen and I are tied for #1 commenter. Okay, she can be #1 but I'm definitely #2 :) And YES word verification is NOT that hard. seriously, people!
wait it says ash is leaving these comments but it's really LINDSEY. I don't know what's up with that...
I am here, sounding off as your scantily-clad cheerleader!!! Sorry, I get lazy when I use Google Reader, but I can atest that by going private, I will comment more. Ask Plip, it's true. Send me an invite!
Ok.. you had me at "scantily clad"! :) Yes, I tend to be an anonymous reader on occasion. But sometimes I really don't have the 30 seconds to come up with something cute and clever to say to such a cute and clever girl who all I want from her is her love and approval. But just know that sometimes one man's barf is another man's treasure! On those days I feel fried and happen to catch up on your posts, I go back to the grind with a glimmer of a smile/smirk that only my Jami can provide her Puffalump! If you go private(sounds so naughty & "off-limits").. count me in! :)
Okay...I'll post. I am officially a blogstalker (?) Is that the term? I love to read others' blogs & don't have my own. So, I'm sorry I don't post, but it's sort of a guilty pleasure to look at pics and read what's going on with people (like your nap mats!). Anyway, this may be my only post EVER, but I did it! And don't expect an invite to my blog anytime soon as it's non existent :) Jen
Oh, and BTW, Steph's blog tells you when everyone else's blog has been updated...so I just go to hers once in a while & then I know whose to look at!
So....I thought blogging everyday was a good thing, blog barf. Haha. Anyway, I would love to be invited if you go private.
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ha ha, jami. so i feel the same way about blogging as you do. blog barfing? That's a good way to put it. Apparently, I've been doing the same myself. As far as comments go, I love them as much as you do! And totally agree with you... if someone is going to read your blog, they should take the time to comment. Hence, me commenting on your blog right now. Also, I have a tracker on my blog, which is fun to see where people are when they read my blog, so I know when people come and take a peek into myself and don't comment! I should make it a rule---- if you're going to read my blog, you must comment! Even something short would be nice...
Hey, I read! I read! :) I miss you guys! But I too can totally understand the complete awesomeness of getting a comment! :) But if you go private, invite me!
This is Ashlyn and SPLASH PADS but nice blog barf
I am the queen of BLOG BARF! Check today's blog for instance (your son is featured if you scroll downn). But, I've decided that I am NOT a blogger. I'm a phlogger--no it's not spelled wrong and doesn't mean I beat my children! I'm a photo-logger. I just post pics of my kids for family and friends to see with an short quip about the shot. AND, I will not be going private with my blog anytime soon. I have some technologically incapable family members. They could no more remember how to log in or accept an invitation than grow wings. I don't know if you have any old folks reading your blog, but it's something to think about.
Cool!!!
nothing but love from the utah vest family. i don't know what word verification even means... just an fyi. we love you and hope you're doing well.
I just wanted a comment with my own name on it. ahhh, thank you. Your blog is my favorite. Sometimes after you barf, I will only let myself read one or two at a time so I can make it last longer :) (ewwww...making barf last longer? this analogy is getting out of hand!)
ahh... you had your very first "blog breakdown" or "blog identity crisis"... so cute!
I TOTALLY hear you on every bullet point. I've been through it all in seasoned over a year in blogging. You THINK you're just doing it to keep a "record" of your family... but deep down or maybe not so deep you want the comments, the love back from your admirers. It's okay... I've totally been there!!
It takes a lot for you to post and put something out there, and the LEAST that your stalkers could do who SO enjoy reading is COMMENTS ever so often. I think it's greedy to NOT comment.
Anyhow, I totally hear you... and these feelings your going through are totally and completely NORMAL! ;)
All that weirdness is one of the reasons I went private. I hated that there were those out there getting some good "blog lovin" from me... but never giving me any "blog love" back!!!
I love you, I love your blog... and I hope you keep blogging. But of course, send me a link if you want to see this cheerleader scantily clad in PRIVATE!
i've stalked you for quite a while, but i've also commented a couple times. so for sure invite me if you go private.
aussiecullens@gmail.com
allison
Yeah, I've had my blog for 3 years because I don't have perfectionism to hold me back. I blog barf very well! I hope you will let me have access to your private blog.
Okay - you got me! I love reading your blog - and in this post you stated exactly the reasons why I have procrastinated in getting my blog up and running! Every time I read your blog it inspires me to get mine done. Private is the way to go....I would love an invite!
Okay - you got me...I've commented only once (sorry - but half the time I can't remember my login and password and after a few tries I give up)!!! I love this post because it lists all the reasons why I haven't gotten my blog up and running! I love reading your blog and it inspires me to get mine done! If you go private - I would love an invite! Love ya!!!
First of all you know I always leave comments. So I'll have to asume that was meant for other people, not me. By the way when was the last time I got a comment from you?
As for being private I'm totaly with you. I went to my 10 year high school reunion and people kept saying "I try and get on your blog, but I can't." All I could think was, I don't want you on my blog, that's why I'm private. anyway you have my e-mail so add me if you do go private.
Love your post by the way!
I think one of you needs to start 'BA' or Bloggers Anonymous. I have seen this whole blogging thing get way out of hand, starting with Plip and now my sweet wife. Don't get me wrong, Jami you are extremely talented at it and I enjoy reading it, but you are attached to the computer much more than me now.
It started out as a way to keep a 'journal' and keep family informed, but now its fate relies on whether people show love in return by leaving comments. That positive feedback is nice and the is what the Cowboys cheerleaders provide. They would still get the job done on the field without them, but they do add a little for the fans that come watch the game. So maybe the comments are for the rest of us, you keep focusing on writing those wonderful posts and the comments will come.
One reason I don't comment is b/c it always seems like I would have to come up with something more clever each time, plus I get to comment in person.
But I am making up for it and this comment should get me through for quite some time.
Also remember that you are only getting one side of the story on things involving me. They may not be totally accurate and are definitely told from a wife's/woman's perspective, which we all know can be vastly different than reality.
Anyway, Merry Christmas on the plethora of comments and hopefully they keep coming in. Although I don't think you will stop blogging, whether you post them or not is another question. If you write them, might as well post them.
Thanks for being a great blogger wife and I say you should go private. I don't want what happened to my brother-in-law happening to me.
Love you,
Damian
Hey Jami. I hear ya. Especially on the blog envy. I do not have writing skills. So many of my friends do and so I feel like my posts aren't as "loverly", but then I realized that that's just me, and I have other "gifts" and I'll just have to wait for the eloquent writing skills to appear in the next life!
Please invite me when you go private!
P.S. I was thinking of you as I opened several canned goods for dinner the other night! ;) Thanks for making me feel like I'm not terrible, I mean if it works for Betty Crocker, it works for me!
So, I want an invite if you go private...I mean, I have known you since we were 5!
Okay, I know I was one of the people who asked you that 'million dollar' question! You should know that people only ask you that b/c you're hilarious! Even your ranting is hilarious, now just get over it and invite me to your private blog! I promise to make a comment every time you post. Happy? =)
Hi Jami - I am in that "I need to think up something clever" in order to comment! Some excuse huh? Anyhow, I love you whether you blog or not, but I do enjoy reading so please invite me!
Aw, I like to read things about anything Dudley since I don't get to see you guys often!
Wow....look at all your "closet readers." You crack me up! It was nice to read this post and NOT feel guilty because I do comment somewhat regularly. You know I am all about private blogs though! BTW, what happened to your brother-in-law??
I'm posting because I love reading your blog! Jami, you are such an amazing person and I admire you so much. I only wish I could be half as creative, fun, full of life, good mom, great wife, incredible friend, and much more. I haven't seen you in years and this is how I get to keep updated on your life!
I love your blog Jami but if I comment it shows under Jeeperscreepers instead of Sandy and Chris and and I can't figure out how to change these silly things! So just know that we love to read what is going on in your lives and we wish we got to see you more!!!
I am what my mother in law calls a "lurker" -- I read but never comment! I am a "hit and miss" blog reader, just like in real life (kinda flaky), but you are so funny and creative I love reading!
you are so funny... i like the phrase blog barf-- i kept waiting for you to post something, and now you did and alot! love it- invite me if you are going private or was that just a threat?! ha
So, I guess I have to post a comment if I still want to be your friend. Love ya!
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